I get what you're saying in these strategies. It's insane how relative they are. Honestly though, the best part of your post to me was your future work. That is going to be awesome to read about as you move forward. I hope your move goes smooth!
Detachment from things that you really love can be hard. But once you let it go with gratitude it can be liberating. Detaching from the ones we love can be made a bit easier if we trust in the process and idea of falling in love again, both people and material. But as for me, I’m always practicing these skills, never been a master.
Love your practice of gratitude here! With people, I also like to see them of companions who walk with us for seasons or chapters of our lives and sometimes our paths divert, change, a relationship transforms within a new medium (e.g. more phone, letters), but can also converges again in some unknown future. ✨
Another brilliant piece, Fabienne, thank you! I related a lot reading it. I am usually quite emotional and parting ways with anything is an enormous burden.
I really love you gave the reasons why the approaches you had so far didn't work. This made me think, the way we colour some final experiences with sad undertones. And how we might not know what's the best way to leave some things behind, but at least being aware of our behaviours is making such a huge difference.
I also loved the videos from Kerteminde, so calming 🥰🧘♀️
It seems like a quite vulnerable topic to people and I am so glad it resonates with you. To be honest, my initial goal with this article was to also write about a solution since I thought otherwise it would not be of any value.
But the writing process then was a good reminder about the very fact that not everything needs to be solved right away. As you say - at least being aware of some things is already making a difference - and probably, it is the more gentle and compassionate approach rather than trying to solve everything in life.
Yeess, the atmosphere in Kerteminde was really amazing for simply watching the world around you!
Thank you for writing this, Fabienne. Love of people, pets and place lead to attachment, and maybe it just demonstrates that you are a loving being. Oddly, places can love us back. Older traditions speak to this, and so do theories of resonance and energy. Be kind to yourself as you move into growth and change, and I will give myself the same advice, as I move from my beloved home for many years to a smaller abode that is more manageable as I mature. Loving luck to all.
Ah i can totally relate with strategy 2, avoiding. For us, avoidants, the practice is to not be afraid of our emotions, and welcome them. Easier said than done!! What’s helped me is to see the emotion as a wave. So you could say I’m an inner surfer :)
Thank you for sharing and wishing you resilience through it all!
Oh, thanks so much for sharing your tool of the inner surfer! I like it. Avoiding a wave as a surfer is a) no fun and b) quite dangerous. When paddling out, you need to face it head first and through. And when you are out, you eventually should ride them, otherwise, you are stuck out there.
Moving is indeed one of the most illustrative moments of starting a new chapter and focusing on the new chapter is ultimately the focal point. However, we also want and should spend a healthy amount of time making sure we have a good closure of the previous chapter!
🤣 I guess it was timing. Though I have to confess I have never been in Berlin traffic.
I love the section " Things that made me smile, laugh, think, cry, or curse this week," I also enjoyed a couple of videos from Denmark 😊 Great postcard.
It’s so interesting to see that so many can relate with these approaches! And maybe that’s kind of okay. It’s part of the human condition enmeshed with the societal elements we have been raised in.
Thanks! Yes it’s a super exciting journey and I have to pinch myself at times to see that this is actually my life now! Would love to take you along ☺️
Good luck with the move. Notice how the dog (ai version) is just happy to be with you. Doesn't matter where you are as long as you're all together :-)
She is always happy to be with us and such an important reminder that simply having the pack together is what matters in the end!
I get what you're saying in these strategies. It's insane how relative they are. Honestly though, the best part of your post to me was your future work. That is going to be awesome to read about as you move forward. I hope your move goes smooth!
Detachment from things that you really love can be hard. But once you let it go with gratitude it can be liberating. Detaching from the ones we love can be made a bit easier if we trust in the process and idea of falling in love again, both people and material. But as for me, I’m always practicing these skills, never been a master.
Love your practice of gratitude here! With people, I also like to see them of companions who walk with us for seasons or chapters of our lives and sometimes our paths divert, change, a relationship transforms within a new medium (e.g. more phone, letters), but can also converges again in some unknown future. ✨
Another brilliant piece, Fabienne, thank you! I related a lot reading it. I am usually quite emotional and parting ways with anything is an enormous burden.
I really love you gave the reasons why the approaches you had so far didn't work. This made me think, the way we colour some final experiences with sad undertones. And how we might not know what's the best way to leave some things behind, but at least being aware of our behaviours is making such a huge difference.
I also loved the videos from Kerteminde, so calming 🥰🧘♀️
It seems like a quite vulnerable topic to people and I am so glad it resonates with you. To be honest, my initial goal with this article was to also write about a solution since I thought otherwise it would not be of any value.
But the writing process then was a good reminder about the very fact that not everything needs to be solved right away. As you say - at least being aware of some things is already making a difference - and probably, it is the more gentle and compassionate approach rather than trying to solve everything in life.
Yeess, the atmosphere in Kerteminde was really amazing for simply watching the world around you!
Thank you for writing this, Fabienne. Love of people, pets and place lead to attachment, and maybe it just demonstrates that you are a loving being. Oddly, places can love us back. Older traditions speak to this, and so do theories of resonance and energy. Be kind to yourself as you move into growth and change, and I will give myself the same advice, as I move from my beloved home for many years to a smaller abode that is more manageable as I mature. Loving luck to all.
Oh, I love your compassionate and loving perspective to it! And the notion of places loving us back ( Karma ☺️)
Ah i can totally relate with strategy 2, avoiding. For us, avoidants, the practice is to not be afraid of our emotions, and welcome them. Easier said than done!! What’s helped me is to see the emotion as a wave. So you could say I’m an inner surfer :)
Thank you for sharing and wishing you resilience through it all!
Oh, thanks so much for sharing your tool of the inner surfer! I like it. Avoiding a wave as a surfer is a) no fun and b) quite dangerous. When paddling out, you need to face it head first and through. And when you are out, you eventually should ride them, otherwise, you are stuck out there.
Excellent tips! I’m not a surfer in the “real” sea, so good to know these tips. Crazy how they apply to the inner sea of emotions!
I haven’t moved many times in my life, but the nature of moving implies the closing of a chapter.
The few times I’ve moved, I always aim to focus more on the new possibilities. It’s an exciting experience in moderation.
I drove around Germany last week, and found the traffic around Berlin much worse than Hamburg. Maybe it was just the timing 😂
Moving is indeed one of the most illustrative moments of starting a new chapter and focusing on the new chapter is ultimately the focal point. However, we also want and should spend a healthy amount of time making sure we have a good closure of the previous chapter!
🤣 I guess it was timing. Though I have to confess I have never been in Berlin traffic.
I love the section " Things that made me smile, laugh, think, cry, or curse this week," I also enjoyed a couple of videos from Denmark 😊 Great postcard.
I enjoy writing it, too! It’s like a little recap of my week in emotions ☺️
Interesting beings we humans are. We don't get attached only to other beings, but to things and places, too. Our limbic system is screwed up.
I like the non-attachment strategy. Be grateful for what it was and embrace what will come.
I am going to dive a bit deeper in a future article ☺️
Looking forward 👀
It’s so interesting to see that so many can relate with these approaches! And maybe that’s kind of okay. It’s part of the human condition enmeshed with the societal elements we have been raised in.
Thanks! Yes it’s a super exciting journey and I have to pinch myself at times to see that this is actually my life now! Would love to take you along ☺️
What a long drive and such a big move. Hope that the adjustment is swift! Great that you’re loving the cute Danish towns!
Thanks so much, same to you 🥰